In accordance with my latest article (Whether You Make A Few Mistakes Here In The Conversation?), this time I will discuss the importance of using good body language. Improve body language can make a big difference when someone assesses your personality.
Good body language can indicate that you have the skills, the allure, and a positive mood. For example: If you smile, you will feel happier. If you sit down with the strapping, you will feel more energetic. If you delay your movement (no rush), you will feel more at ease.
Broadly speaking, body language made up of how you sit, how you stand, how you use both your hands and feet, as well as what you do when speaking with someone.
Below are some of the body language that you need to consider when talking to a person:
1. Don't cross your legs and right hand.
You may have heard that cross your hands or legs may indicate that you covered against you're talking to and it does not create the relationship talk is good. Open always position your hands and feet.
2. Do eye contact, but not looking at them.
By making eye contact on you're talking the talk can make a link for the better and you can see if they are listening to you or not. But not with her (continuously), because it will make the person you're talking to be troubled.
If you're not used to doing in eye contact you're talking, you will feel discomfort when first. But just do it constantly and you will get used someday.
3. Make the distance between your feet.
Gives the distance between both feet (no point) in either a sitting or standing position shows that you are quite confident and comfortable with your position.
4. Casual right over your shoulder.
When you feel tense, you will feel also the tension on both your shoulders. Usually seen from a position slightly raised shoulders and forward to the future. Try to loosen the tension by moving your shoulder right back position and retreated to the back or leaning.
5. Nod, when you're talking to, is speaking.
Nod indicates that you are listening to. But that does not mean you nod overload (continuous and fast) like woodpeckers:) because you will look like a contrived.
6. Don't slouch, sit with upright.
Bent indicates that you are not passionately, and erect here the intent is to stay in the corridor is relaxed, not tense.
7. The governing body, but do not Skew too much.
If you want to show that you are interested with what was delivered by the person you're talking to, your body a bit of a skew toward him. But do not be too overly skew because you look like will ask for something.
If you want to show that you are confident enough and relaxed a little skew your body back. But don't be so inclined, because you'll look arrogant.
8. Smile and laugh.
Cheerful, don't be so serious. Relaxed, smiling even laugh if someone tells something funny. People will tend to listen to you if you are seen as being positive. But also don't be the person who first laughed if you own that tell funny stories because you will be impressed as nervous and ask for mercy.
Smiling when you became acquainted with someone, but don't also smiled continuously as you will be deemed to keep something behind your smile.
10. Don't rush.
This could apply to just about anything. For those of you who have a habit of walking quickly, try occasionally to slow down your street. In addition, you will look more poised and confident, you will also feel your stress level is reduced.
11. Avoid movements which indicate that you are nervous.
Like touching your face, to wiggle your toes or tapping your fingers on the table quickly. Such movements indicate that you are nervous and may interfere with the opponent's attention to talk or the people who are talking to you.
12. Use your hands to take effect.
Instead, you use your hand to things which can disrupt the attention you're talking to, as mentioned in point 11 above, better you use your hand to help explain what you tell them.
13. Lower the glass you drink.
Often we talk to someone while holding a drinking glass in front of the chest. This attitude is rather less well because it will make the ' distance ' which is quite a distance between you and the person you're talking to. Lower the position of the drinks you, even if you need to hold it up in the near distance.
14. Don't stand too close.
In my article: how to know someone was lying, I was reviewing a little that people who change his position of being too close to the opponent's speech may indicate that he was hiding something or have a specific meaning. In addition to that of, course will make the opponent interlocutor become uncomfortable. Always keep a distance of ' privacy ' between you and the person you're talking to.
15. The glass.
In the books on sale, I often find the term Windows. Essentially when 2 people are connected and have positive talks, they unconsciously will mutually look at each other. In a sense you're going a little mimic body language you're talking to, nor vice versa.
You can also do a proactive glass technique (knowingly) to further improve the quality of your relationship and you're talking to. For example, if you're talking a little bit about his forward bends, you can also bend your torso forward. If you're talking to put one hand on the table, you can also do the same thing. But keep in mind, do not perform a clone with a pause time is very short and almost all of the movements are imitated. You're talking to will notice an oddity and looks like a circus.
16. Always Keep your attitude.
What you feel will flow through body language and can be a big difference to the quality of your relationship and you're talking to. Keep a positive attitude, keep an open and relaxed.
Keep in mind that you can change the language of the body that are less good, of course as long as you understand that to create a new habit requires a process. Do not also try to do with all at once because it will make you confused and tired.
Focus only on 2-3 body language become your priorities and fix continuously for 3-4 weeks. After this time you will create a new habit. You can then resume it again for 2-3 the next body language.